Well, being as I live several houses away from an elder and his family I was constantly getting little "surprise" visits wondering if we were all ok as we hadn't been to the meetings in awhile. My friends would feign interest in stopping by to see how the garden was doing or if I wanted to stop over for dinner and study the watchtower together. It was getting very annoying and impossible to avoid the questions and guilt trips (didn't work, but bothersome all the same). Of course, this was just a couple of my closer friends, we were forgotten and ignored by 99% of the congregation after missing our first month of meetings.
Anyway, after spending an hour debating with two elders for the second visit that week, I just realized they were either going to try and beat it into my head that the organization's teachings were the truth or I was going to be disfellowshipped. The days previously I had 2 deep discussions of my position with two friends who I thought were the most understanding. I wanted them to know my reasons for leaving. So at the meeting with the elders, I knew that had already tied up loose ends and I was ready to just move on. So I stopped the elders in the middle of their "speech" and asked if I could just have some paper and a pen so I could disassociate myself from this organization.
They acted stunned and got teary eyed. They asked me if I really wanted to do this and I said "Yes, I've already thought it out and prayed about it and done my grieving over being deceived, I'm ready to move on.". So I did and I walked out feeling relief. That relief is still there and I don't have to deal with trying to talk to any of them about the "truth" anymore.
I felt it provided more of a statement to those that knew me better. They knew I felt that the organization was lying. I didn't want to be disfellowshipped because of celebrating Halloween or something stupid later on. So I'm glad I did it. YOu do what's best for you. Remember, real friends love you unconditionally. If you'll lose them from fading away, what's the difference?
Anne